The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance. Viktor Frankl
We all have bad days, sometimes the situations are completely out of our control and no matter how much we stretch ourselves, we cannot change them. Although, it is not crystal clear, we oftentimes are in power to turn the bad experiences into good outcomes.
I’ve created a handy tips on how to shift your approach… and if all fails, shift your energy:
- Detach yourself. You know how they say it’s all a matter of perspective? Well, they are right, it is. And this is why it is important to take a step back, namely – go for a walk, occupy yourself with something else to give yourself the time to digest it and see if it’s truly that big of a deal and understand your options. Bad situations turn into opportunities and there is usually a different point of view and way out. You just cannot see it yet because you are too much into seeing the things the way you think they are.
- Be aware. We often give a bad experience such an importance we tend to forget about all the good things that happened throughout the day. As soon as you reframe from thinking ‘it was a bad day/period/year’, you belittle the significance of the event.
- Turn to gratitude. What have you learnt from this experience? Although it might be difficult at first, you can always learn something from the experience or see the good in it. There’s no better way to minimise the negative emotions than finding the gratitude. Ask yourself questions to help you find the gratitude:
- What lessons have I learnt from this experience?
- Can I find ways to be thankful for what happened to me now even though I was not at the time it happened?
- What change or improvement have I seen in myself that surprised me?
- How am I now more the person I want to be because of it? Have my negative feelings about the experience limited or prevented my ability to feel gratitude in the time since it occurred?
- Has the experience removed a personal obstacle that previously prevented me from feeling grateful?
- Stay in control. While we cannot control some of the events, we surely can control how we react to them. Think of the times when you were totally cool and in control and owning the situation. Didn’t it feel good? Or think of a person who always reacts the way you’d want to react. Now, think how you could apply these great examples into your current situation – after all, you are in control of how you react to every situation
- Make a use of that energy. Negative emotions usually come with negative energy. They keep you high and awake. Turn them into a productivity hack. Work on soothing that has been bothering you. Go to the gym and sweat it out, dance it away to your favourite uplifting music. Do something with it. Don’t waste it.
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